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A Lesson Learned

I find it amazing how easily we hold on to things that remind us of the important people in our lives. But just like that, those things can as easily be taken away from us. I am usually very good at judging what is essential but Hurricane Irene taught me that I have held on to too much. Most of them I kept on the intent of donating to Salvation Army or for sending back home.

One day – that’s all it took to force me to throw them all away. A big part of me is relieved that I have no choice but a part of me wished that I’ve done it a long time ago. I am glad I am able to let go of them without feeling bad. That tells me I am not attached to anything I kept.

In everything that happens to us… There is wisdom and I am very thankful that I have seen beyond the endless cleaning and probably weeks of disinfecting and maybe minor renovations. God is good!

 
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Posted by on August 29, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

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How to Simplify your Life in 5 Steps

 

 How to Simplify Your Life in 5 Steps

Dr. Tim Ong

 The modern lifestyle is a stressful lifestyle. It is based on the belief that more is better – more things to do, more things accomplished, more gains, more activities, and more sense stimulation. Thus the need to have more money and more possessions prevails. However, such a life is not necessarily more fulfilling. In fact, it often leads to a more stressful life, more sickness and more frustrations.

Great rewards await those who can simplify their lives. A simple life can be more fulfilling, more peaceful and more beneficial to you. It can be more conducive to a happier and healthier life, and it can improve your relationships tremendously.

 Here are 5 steps to simplify your life:

 1. Prioritize

The first thing to do is to spend some time to decide what is truly important to you. Is it your health, time with loved ones or service to community? It might interest you to know that people in their death beds do not worry about how much money or properties they have accumulated.  Rather, they are concern about the quality of the relationships they have, and they are particularly worried about any unfinished business or unresolved conflicts with their loved ones. Rather than repairing damaged relationships when we are dying, is it not wiser to cultivate quality relationships while we are still healthy and alive?

2. Slow Down

Do not measure your life by the number of tasks you do each day. Many people squeeze as many tasks as they can into their day, thinking that the more they do, the more they achieve. In doing so, they are able to accomplish more tasks but at the expense of truly living and enjoying the tasks they do. They sacrifice quality for the number. The way to truly live is to slow down and enjoy each moment and task that you do. Make each task meaningful. Be present in the moment instead of rushing through the task. When you have worked out your priorities (in #1), you will be able to know what is important and what is not, and you can then reduce the unnecessary tasks, leaving you with more time for the more important tasks.

3. Discard the Unnecessary

Take time to unclutter your life. Begin by uncluttering your possessions. Look at your table.  Check out the storerooms. Are there anything there that you can discard? Are you hoarding too many things in your life? The habit of hoarding is a sign of insecurity, a manifestation of fear.  The more things you need to feel safe indicates the more fear in you. Material possessiveness is just one sign of this insecurity. Look within your mind and you will probably see that there is more sense of insecurity in your thoughts. Learn to let go of those fear too. The more you let go, the lighter you will feel, and paradoxically the less you fear. Remember that there are many people who have been able to live with far less than what you have. Note also that the more you feed this hoarding habit, the stronger it gets and the more insecure you will feel.

 4. Reduce Information Overload

Our modern life is bombarded by information from all directions. We are reachable every minute with our mobile phones, and we are constantly connected to news via the internet, emails, social networks and the traditional newspapers, televisions and radios. If we want to find some peace of mind, we need to reduce all these bombardments. We need to be able to switch off our phones, computers, televisions and radios, and reward ourselves with some time free from all these intrusions. We need to spend some quiet and uninterrupted time with ourselves and our loved ones.

 5. Learn Gratitude

Rather than cultivating a habit of feeding our wants and needs, which is like a bottomless blackhole that can never be filled, it is more fruitful to cultivate a habit of reducing our wants and needs. Learn instead to be grateful for whatever we have. We can be grateful for all the things that went right in our life, such as the party we planned for our child’s birthday, a wonderful weekend trip with the family or simply spending a restful evening with our loved ones. We can also be grateful for the things that did not go wrong in our life. Many of the things we take for granted can go wrong. For example, our daily trip to work can be met with an accident or a flat tire or unexpected natural disaster can take just about everything away from us. The fact that they did not go wrong is something to be grateful for. Finally, even if something did go wrong, we can still be grateful for the lesson it has taught us.

When we slow down our life, we get to listen to our heart. We learn to appreciate every moment and every interaction with others more deeply. Our senses can become more acute and sharp, and life is more likely to unfold beautifully before our eyes. Try it and you will find that it is easy to fall in love with the simple life.

 

About the Author:

Dr. Tim Ong is a medical doctor with keen interests in self improvement, mind science and spirituality.  He is the author of “The Book of Personal Transformation” and “From Fear to Love: A Spiritual Journey”. You can find more articles on self improvement at his websites at http://theselfimprovementsite.com and http://mindscience101.com

 
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Posted by on July 6, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

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45 Lessons

Once in a while it’s good to be reminded of what’s essential in this world. Amidst all the daily chaos, words of wisdom keep us grounded. I’d like to share with you an email I received again today.

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio
“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written.”
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain .
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words — In five years, will this matter?
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

 
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Posted by on June 23, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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Your Success – Your Responsibility

Who is Responsible for Your Success? …   by Jack Canfield

This isn’t a trick question. Certainly you know the answer–the person who has been responsible for the life you live right now: YOU.

Everything about you is a result of your doing or not doing… Your income. Debt. Relationships. Health. Fitness level. Attitudes and behaviors. I think everyone knows this in their hearts, but often times people convince themselves into thinking that external factors are the source of their failure, disappointment, and unhappiness. External factors do not determine how you live. YOU are in complete control of the quality of your life.

When I hear people complain about the state of their life (be it their problems with personal finances, weight, their jobs, or general dissatisfaction) I like to help them see things differently. If they feel “stuck” and unable to move forward for whatever reason, I ask them to scrutinize both what is working well and what isn’t working well in their life and see how they’ve arrived at where they currently are. For example, if a woman tells me she’s unhappy with her weight–she travels frequently, and has no to time to exercise or seek healthy foods–I point out that her weight is not a result of her travels and schedule. It’s an outcome of what she chooses to eat and how she chooses to move, regardless of her daily agenda. Why not make a conscious effort to pre-plan healthy meals and snacks, even if it’s on the go, and sneak in 10 minutes here and 10 minutes there to be physically active (hey, I know some frequent flyers who make it a habit of running through airports!).

If you’re frustrated with any area in your life, then it’s time to take a little inventory. Certainly there are wonderful things happening, whether it’s your job, your romantic relationship, your children, your friends, or your income level. Your accomplishments are just as important as your missteps.

First, congratulate yourself on your successes; and then take a look at what isn’t working out so well. What are you doing or not doing to create those experiences?

Watch out! If you find yourself beginning to complain about everything but the choices you’ve made, then you need to take a step back. See if you can stop blaming outside factors for your unhappiness. When you realize that you–and only you–create your experiences, you’ll realize that you can un-create them and forge new experiences whenever you want. How empowering is that!

You must take responsibility for your happiness and your unhappiness, your successes and your failures, your good times and your bad times. All too often we choose to claim the successes and blame the failures on others or other circumstances. When you stop blaming, however, you can take that energy and redirect it to focus on shaping a better situation for yourself. Blaming only ties up your energy. Imagine roping all the energy into a positive effort.

Some ideas to make this happen: Believe, Believe, Believe! Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. Make the decision to accept the fact that you create all your experiences. You will experience successes thanks to you, and you will experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything. Stumbling blocks become just that–little hills to hop over.

Take no less than 100% responsibility.  Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don’t waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.

Stop complaining.  Look at what you are complaining about. I’m fat. I’m tired. I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my sister. I’ll never find a soulmate in life. Really examine your complaints. More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.

Make an immediate change. Are you unhappy about something that is happening right now? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.

Pay attention. Looking to others for help and guidance is helpful, but don’t forget to stay tuned in to yourself–your behavior, attitude, and life experiences. Identify what’s working and what isn’t. If you need to, write it all down.

Then… Face the truth and take action for the long term. You have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you’ve already taken an initial step in the right direction, now’s the time to plan additional steps to keep moving you forward, faster. Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?

So if you need just one thing to do different today than you did yesterday, make it this: Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it’s much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!

© 2008 Jack Canfield

 
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Posted by on March 12, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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On Regrets and Failures –

A famous cliche says,

Live life without regrets.

It is a very positive thought – an almost reassuring advice that promotes positive thinking. It teaches us to be careful of our decisions and be accountable for the consequences it may face us with. One might ponder how we can always be wise on our decision making when a lot of things in life are uncertain.
Sometimes, I wonder if we can really live life without regrets. Is it even possible to never have wished that you chose a different path? Is there even one uman being who can even say such?
I believe regrets play a big role in one’s success. Failures, Disappointment and Mistakes are all forms of regret. The key is how we handle it. If we hold on to regret, we are allowing it to overpower the good that is yet to come. It blinds us of the beauty that we are surrounded with. I say, let our regrets in life lead us to the success that we are meant to grasp. Let us learn from each and every failure so we can rise and march on to the skinny road to success.

This video from Honda gives us a wonderful insight on how failure can bring us success.

          Failures – Secret to Success

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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2 Weddings, the Holidays and Boracay!!!

Yup!  We were busy.

2 Weddings, the Holidays and Boracay… all bundled into 4 weeks of enjoyment…  Our trip to the Philippines.

We have taken close to 4,000 pictures and that’ll explain why this post.  In other words, I am too lazy to upload the photos again so here I am writing this so I can share the links to the previously uploaded pictures.  I suggest you take your pick of which one to view now and then come back for the others.  Or, you can also view them all if you wish.  Enjoy!

Let me start with the wedding of our youngest sibling.  The wedding location?  Legazpi City in Bicol.  Wonderful city, gracious people and the amazing Mayon Volcano.  And then the wedding – This was the Divine Wedding of Tato and Stacy.

Then came the holidays… Christmas 2008 has been the best Christmas, so far.  Especially for the kids, it was the craziest too – much different from the “Christmas – Just the Four of Us” that they have been used to.  New Year’s Day was equally fun.

After the New Year’s Day celebrations, we had a few days to meet up and dine with our friends.  Then, the most awaited Boracay trip.  It’s a place that one has to see to truly appreciate it’s glory.  It’s a mix of the oh so soothing and relaxing ambience of the beach and the everyday chaos of suburban life.  There’s nothing like it.  Squeezing this side trip was a good decision.  Boracay!

The second wedding was in Manila.  Pope Pious and Baluarte de San Diego.  It was another exquisite ceremony followed by an intimate celebration under the biggest full moon of the year.  This was Randy and Thessa’s wedding.

There you have it!  All albums in one page.  I have more but then, this should be enough for now.  Have fun!!!

Oh… I know I’ve been away and missing in action but here’s hoping that 2009 will bring out the a much more active blogger in me.

Happy New Year!!!

 
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Posted by on January 27, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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Which one are you?

I am a quiet achiever.  For me, I find that it is more of a strength than a weakness.  i do see the fact that sometimes people can take advantage.  I am aware of that.  The key is to be very careful and very aware of what’s going on around you.  It won’t hurt to be a little paranoid, especially in the workplace.

Also, surround yourself with good friends.  I’ve been blessed with a bunch.  I will forever be grateful for that.

Another good article from Anna Johnson –

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Posted by on August 20, 2008 in Uncategorized

 

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